he’s both a fish and a mammal and i hope he’ll never change

one of the big questions i wrestle with lately is about the necessity of christianity for me. i think it will always be a question i wrestle with, because christianity has so many different facets and meanings. “clearly” i have no use for the angry fundamentalist christianity that seems to be what most people equate with all christianity, and i hope to never go back there again. but it has its ghosts in my psyche, raw nerves i’m still nervous about touching.

my girlfriend, who i’ve been with for four years and who i’m planning a life with, was raised, basically, areligious. and i live in urban areas and queer communities that can also be fairly areligious. and there is a pride there that makes sense in the face of the religion that makes it on the news, the religion that seems to wear ignorance as a badge of honor. the problem then, though, is that ignorance of religion becomes the opposite badge of honor. i am continuously upset by the angry war between the religious and the nonreligious, because i think they’re actually on the same side which is the side of anger and fear.

my areligious girlfriend and i try to be on the side of love. and if god is love, is religion necessary?

the answer, for me, is that it can be helpful. it can provide a framework and a discipline for transforming and growing love past something shallow and greeting card.

the challenge, though, is moving past my own shy fear of unpopular opinions and desire for happy family life, and trying to ethically and honestly live a life based somewhere in religion while living with, loving and honoring my girlfriend and her traditions.

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  1. Hello! I was just looking up Pete’s dragon lyrics and i stumbled across your blog. But I think you raises some very Good questions, Questions are okay ,Many people “wrestled” with God in the bible.

    First the theme of being a “angry fundamentalist ” As a christian it makes me very sad and upset to see people judging others.Jesus said to love your Neighbor as yourself.(Matthew 22:34-39) to insult and judge others is in violation of that commandment. This to includes the Homosexual community . As Christians we should never be on the side of “anger and fear.” But on the side of Grace Because that’s what God gave to us even tho we didn’t deserve it. (Romans 5:6) Its sad that this does sometimes happen,

    I don’t want to spend all day talking about this,and we could. I really wanted to talk about when you said

    “my areligious girlfriend and i try to be on the side of love. and if god is love, is religion necessary?”

    You are very correct in saying God is love. And you are right to ask is religion necessary? As a christian for six years I’ve come to relize that religion is what Jesus fought so hard to destroy. Religion is Man trying to reach God. The problem is that we can never do anything to gain Gods favor.No matter how hard we try. The bible says “that we are all guilty All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.” Isaiah 64:6 AND for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, Romans 3:23. There is nothing we can do to get to God. so God had to come to us. This is the very opposite idea of religion. That God Would send his one and only Son Born of a virgin to die is our place, making a connection back to God. We did nothing God did all the work so we could be reconciled to God through Faith is Jesus Christ. For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. So no religion is unnecessary But believing in Jesus is. Here are some videos on the Subject.
    I hope that this helped. If you want to email and chat feel free. I’m writing this about six months after you posted this But i hope it helps




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